GIVING BACK – 2013 THIRST RELIEF MENTOR AUCTION

 

I’m so excited to be a mentor this year for Thirst Relief’s Mentor Auction starting January 31st at 11PM EST.

 

Not familiar with Thirst Relief? They are a non-profit who provides clean water to those in need around the world.

Through their Mentor Auction, Thirst Relief will enable you to bid on eBay for a 90-minute instructional session with some of the best photographers in the business! That means you have the chance to spend 90 minutes with me, learning the ins and outs of branding your photography. This is an opportunity to review of all of your visual brand items, to include, but not limited to, your portfolio, website, blog, paper goods, etc. to help you develop and create a consistent visual message. Plus, you will have the opportunity to work with me to create a completely new, custom identity.

 

100% of the proceeds directly benefit Thirst Relief, meaning all that money goes towards saving the lives of those in need! Last time, the Mentor Auction gave over 8,000 people clean water – just WOW!!

 

There’s just one thing I need you to do before the auction starts:

 

Tell all your friends!!

 

Please help me spread the word by sharing this on Facebook, Tweet about it, post it on Instagram, Pin it – anything to get it out there!

 

You can get more info about the auction here:

http://thirstrelief.org/site/auction

 

and, be sure to check the auction out starting January 31st at 11PM EST here:

http://cgi3.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewUserPage&userid=thirstreliefinternational

 

See you there!

LOVE LETTER

Excited to take her website to the next level with a complete design overhaul, Katie McKnight was the first to respond to the current JLM promotion. Visions of Pottery Barn, whitewash and the soothing comfort of the ocean danced around in her head.

Before I embark on any new project, I ask my clients to answer a few short questions. I get to know them through the answers, are they short and to the point or do they weave a story out of their words. Katie took THAT to the next level, instead of a word document or an attached PDF, she wrote a four page, hand-written letter, introducing me to the story of her life, loves and desires for her business.

As soon as I held that thick, two-stamped letter in my hand, childhood memories flooded back in an instant. Those long summers I’d spent in Virginia with my grams, writing home to each one of my friends. Pages of yellow-lined paper, catching them up on, what was then, a very exciting lifestyle of water-skiing, pig roasts and learning how to drive a golf cart.. but, I was most excited when I drove to the post office with my gram and she would hand me their response. I knew that inside would be frayed notebook pages, filled with words written in big bubble letters, filling me in on all I was missing back home.

In a world filled with email, Facebook and texting, I loved to feel the weight of each page as I hung on to each word, dreaming of Ms Katie’s new website.

MAKING THINGS HAPPEN :: THE RECAP

There was no magic recipe or process to take to ultimate success. It’s nothing you don’t already know – sometimes, you just need the confirmation in order to make it viable in your life. Attending Making Things Happen helped me figure out who I was, because ultimately, that’s what my business will be.

So, for those of you who stuck with me and read about my Making Things Happen journey, thank you! If you missed it, and would like to read about it, you can begin here. (part 2, part 3)

If you’re anything like me, you like when things are spelled out – below is a recap of the action steps I was able to take away. These steps have helped me find clarity, get organized and create the most success in my life and business.

1. Create a mentor action list

* Decide on five people who you would like to connect with and reach out.

// Think of something that will set you apart: what can you do for them to make their job easier? What can you offer that they can’t do themselves or hire someone else to do?

// Don’t ask them for coffee, that’s just a round about way of saying you are going to waste an hour+ of their time picking their brain. Prove it’s an investment for them too.

// Be in a good head space because it can be discouraging if they don’t immediately email you back. Keep in mind they are busy, if they weren’t you wouldn’t find them valuable. Respect their time and cut them a break. They may have gotten to your email then got distracted by everything else they need to do. If they haven’t returned your email, try emailing again, gently reminding them that you would like to connect.

 

2.     Download and create an action list

* Go out and buy yourself a fancy new notebook, preferably something that sparkles 🙂 Then take some time to free write and get it all out.

// I create sections for myself: personal, business, etc. I then broke those down:

=> personal: declutter – drawers, closets

drawers: (action list)

– pull out all clothing

– go through and donate all clothes no longer my style

– pack away all the likes, but not right now (I love doing this! As trends come and go it’s fun to have the keepers around = less shopping later <= totally wishing I knew this back then and kept some of my hippie garb now that long skirts are making a come back, haha!)

– group clothing by type, season, etc.

– refold and store according to type and color.

– store off season in bins.

=> business: Jessica Lee Media, Jessica Lee Photography

Jessica Lee Photography: (action list)

– find a mentor

– get lessons

– buy equipment

• think of ways to make money so you can buy equipment

– practice

•  set up a practice guide

– buy domain name

• set up email

–  set up a fan page

– set up blog

– post

• organize list of things to talk about

… you get the idea.

 

3.     Purge all social media, bookmarks, etc.

* Lara explained to us that we keep these things to distract us from the decisions we need to make. She said to get rid of them! Take them off your browser toolbar. Turn off all pushes on your phone. Make them work to get too.You’ll be surprised that the attitude, ‘oh, let me just check in for five minutes’ – which turns into a total time suck – will become a hassle when you actually have to take the time to dig deep and find that nasty little link, haha!

We all have that one who does nothing but plug themselves, the one we have an unhealthy competition with or that one’s position we covet. This just sucks the creativity right out of you. SO.GET.RID.OF.IT!

 

4.     Create 5 actionable items

* Each day review your download list and take away five actionable items (things you can do under 30 mins).

// For me, most things take longer than 30 minutes and can have as many 10 steps. I try to give myself a healthy mix with a goal of being completed in one week. Some I knock out right away and some take a little longer. I try and I am realistic, this girl is no superwoman. I have to work full time, which comes with daily fires to put out, laundry to do, a dog to walk, a husband to feed, and I’m having a heck of a time trying to get my 19-year-old butt back – women over 30, can I get an AMEN?! haha!

 

5.     Evaluate your environment

* Your closet, your car, your office. These things can create that sense of forgetting something, feeling as if things are out of place or simply suffocating under the weight of being out of control.

// For me, it’s all these things and then some. Right now the biggest thing that is looming are my hard drives. Lara taught us that you could continue to put it off if you simply haven’t broken it down enough (which is probably why I haven’t gotten around to it yet <= hello reminder!)

 

6.     5 things that make you feel whole everyday

* Write those things down! Get them in front of you as a constant reminder. Take care of yourself! You deserve it!

// mine are:

work out/physical activity

walk Alice

prayer

at least three bottles of water a day

encourage someone in their business

encourage my husband to chase his dream

**Have you attended the Making Things Happen experience? I would love to hear what you took away from it and how it helped you grow!**

 

______________________________________________________________________________

Because this experience has helped me grow so much I want to give back!!! I’m offering anyone who wants to make things happen in their business 50% off my identity and/or web design packages. Spots are limited to 8 people (confirmed with a retainer). Feel free to email me for all the details at jessica@jessicaleemedia.com

______________________________________________________________________________

MAKING THINGS HAPPEN :: THE JOURNEY

When we ended that day I felt raw and exposed but hopeful, alive, with a pinch of clarity. I also took with me a new skill set. I was satisfied. Money well spent.

Two days later, I created my video recap. I tried to avoid this but my OCD would not allow me to not complete ALL the steps, as if the whole process would be void if I didn’t. What was only supposed to be a ten-minute recap, to get it done and over with, turned into a thirty-five minute roller-coaster of emotions.  I could have gone on forever but I needed to practice some self-restraint. (although I hate to see myself that vulnerable, it’s a great reminder of the power released in me that day.)

The process was now complete. I was now ready for the transformation to happen. The big sha-bang. I waited. and waited. and waited. Two weeks later, life was still the same struggle. Disappointment and resentment started to creep in.

commence meltdown.

That’s when Ms Lara Casey stepped in, gently but firmly reminding us it’s a work in progress.  We have to walk through the junk, get out of overwhelmed and break it down. It’s never perfect but worth working hard for. AHHHH… TRUTH well spoken. She also launched ‘the challenge’, a great recap of the work we did (for those of you who couldn’t attend) and a fantastic tune-up (for those that did).

 

I won the t-shirt, by the way. whoop. whoop!!

Here’s what I wrote:

I walked away from MTH 2011 (NY) with the skills I needed to create momentum in my life. As time passed, and life got in the way, this [these, TUMBLR] challenges helped me maintain areas and reignite in others that fire I so lovingly cultivated that day.

I decided not to post everyday/week but wanted to post at the end of the month – two fold, so I can see the overview of my effort in this challenge and to see where I had movement and which areas need more tilling.

Here’s my breakdown…

STEP 1: DOWNLOAD

I keep a dedicated pad on my desk and I do this 2-3 times a day. Once at night for the next day. Once in the am, if needed, to clear my head before work. Sometimes throughout the day…I may be working and something will pop into my head. Instead of saying, oh, I’ll do that later – because, most often I forget – I write it down.

This has helped me in so many ways. I feel more organized now that all my lists are in one notebook. I feel accomplished when I get to check things off or even rip pages out <= that ROCKS!! My brain feels less cluttered and I no longer feel overwhelmed or like I’m missing/forgetting something important. Plus, as time goes on, I get to review my list and decide which things are most important, rather than everything is important and must get done.

STEP 2: CLEAR THE CLUTTER

I must admit, this area is still lacking.

However, I make it a point to make sure my desk is clear of clutter every evening before I leave. I also make sure my desktop is organized, so client files are easily accessible.

Even though I know there are those things that need to be cut, merged or trashed, keeping a clean desk and desktop make me feel less anxious throughout my day.

STEP 3: PREPARE FOR GREATNESS

Setting myself up for greatness has been the most challenging because it forces me to face all that fear, but I have tried my best to walk right over it and press on! I’m in the process of reorganizing my design business so I can fully concentrate on my photography => buying the appropriate domain name(s), creating a DBA, setting up a blog, getting lessons, teaming up with another photographer to second/third shoot and practicing.practicing.practicing.

I loved this step, because even though I felt the fear, I did it anyway! It’s taught me a lot about myself … what I will and wont do, what I’m made of, recognizing my strengths and my weaknesses and what I will/have to do to FIGHT to make this happen for my life <= MONUMENTAL!!

STEP 4: TAKE A BREAK

Also a step that needs some work. I do try and take 15-20 minute breaks to hang out with my husband each day. I try and take one day off a week. Haven’t got to the once a month shebang, haha!

The operative word here is TRY – not perfection. I’m realistic about my situation – I am a one person team, if I don’t do the work it won’t get done. BUT, I am aware this needs to happen more in my life because when it does it’s oh-so-good!!

STEP 5: LEAP

One leap I made this month was asking to have a third shooter opportunity moved up. Instead of April 30th – I was trying to put a lot of space in between me and that date – I asked to participate April 9th as well.

I no longer want to be the brick wall standing in my way to my success. In doing this, leaping, I’m finding that I’m doing it more often without really thinking about it, just doing it => what was once forced is now becoming an adopted frame of mine.

STEP 6: ENCOURAGING OTHERS

Something I do on a daily basis.

In doing this, I found that I am the best me when I’m encouraging and lifting up others!

STEP 7: DEFINE AND IMPLEMENT BOUNDARIES

Another one that needs some work but I’m finding, as I work through these steps, I’m defining/learning my own value – in myself and my work – clearly helping me decide what I will and will not do/put up with, etc.

I have had opportunities where I had to say no due to timing (their lack of) and I did not feel bad about it.period!

STEP 8: CELEBRATE

oh, I do this one very well. SHOPPING ANYONE?

STEP 9: DEFINE AND DO WHAT FIRES YOU UP

Photography fires me up – I am actively and aggressively seeking it. sleeping it. breathing it. doing it! I am not waiting for it to come to me but knocking on opportunities door – even at night, there is no shame in my game, haha!

STEP 10: DON’T STOP

I rinse and repeat as needed!!

I really am a better person from my MTH experience and these steps have only helped me solidify what was birthed in me that day. I am forever changed. grateful. happy. loving the new me!!!

 

This challenge was exactly what I needed to get me back on track. I got proactive about my life. Changed a lot of the old thinking, dug deep and worked hard. I launched Jessica Lee Media, a new business structure, completely authentic to me and something I’m so very proud of. Finalizing that has allowed me to now focus on Jessica Lee Photography (<= a work in progress), my ultimate destination.

Stay with me on this journey (found here on this blog). I’m looking forward to the days of further self-discovery and to the failures that will lead to my ultimate success.

Thank you for sticking with me and reading my story!

*hugs*

Jessica

Check back on Monday for a MAKING THINGS HAPPEN RECAP!

……………………………………………………………………………………………………………

Because this experience has helped me grow so much I want to give back!!! I’m offering anyone who wants to make things happen in their business 50% off my identity and/or web design packages. Spots are limited to 8 people (confirmed with a retainer). Feel free to email me for all the details at jessica@jessicaleemedia.com

MAKING THINGS HAPPEN :: THE EXPERIENCE

I refused to jump on the bandwagon. Like a child who will hold their breath when they don’t want to do something. no.ah-ah.not me.I wont do it.hmmph. Like any child though, I peaked. Then opened an eye. Both eyes. Then jumped right on that crazy wagon. First with Twitter, than Facebook.

Through a series of tweets, then posts, I came to learn about the Making Things Happen experience. I signed up and was dumped at 500 E 62nd Street, New York, NY in the middle of a blizzard nineteen inches deep. Twenty-four of us sat in that room that day ready for change.

We wrote down our greatest fears, that “I’m afraid of ____ because of ____” statement. We then evaluated the five people we spend most of our time with. This could include the blogs you read, the business’s you covet and the people you idolize. check. check. and check.

After that we developed a list of five mentors, identified our top ten distractions and learned how to pre-visualize. We then ‘cleared the clutter’ by downloading in our notebooks – the biggest things for me were not having a clean, inspiring work environment, having an overflowing inbox (four of them) and multiple hard drives that were a mess.

We shared what our ideal day would be like, five things that would help us to feel whole each day and ten things that FIRE.ME.UP. Being the overachiever, I had twenty:

  1. God
  2. Helping people get saved
  3. Helping kids to see the power in themselves
  4. My husband for so many reasons
  5. My new church
  6. Getting in shape
  7. Good music
  8. That I am an artist
  9. That I know what I know
  10. That I’m not where I used to be
  11. Photography
  12. Seeing love
  13. Traveling
  14. Music
  15. Fashion
  16. Good, clean design
  17. The smell of jasmine
  18. Snow boarding
  19. Having authentic friendships
  20. A new pair of shoes

After that we wrote in our notebooks, “Life is too short too|not too…” statements.

Life is too short not to surrender completely

Life is too short to always be busy

Life is too short to be shut off

Life is too short to not find success by my definition

and the list goes on for two pages.

When we were asked to share. out loud. A cool sweat settled over me – the kind when you feel cold but your sweating all over. Yeah, not pleasant. I thought I was going to pass out. THREE. TWO. ONE. MY TURN. yeah.this one.the one right here.this one doesn’t talk about that sort of stuff.nope.ah-ah.not me.not gonna do it.hmmph. One generic answer after another was all I offered.

Then I felt God speak into my heart, “I can only show you the door but you have to walk through it”. I was scared. I locked eyes on Ms Gina and put down that heavy backpack (as we liked to call it). That’s when the magic happened!

Each round around the circle I spoke boldly into my life. Finally, a moment of truth…

I will be a photographer. no. I AM A PHOTOGRAPHER!

With that, a decision was made.

Come back for PART III :: THE JOURNEY tomorrow!

……………………………………………………………………………………………………………

Because this experience has helped me grow so much I want to give back!!! I’m offering anyone who wants to make things happen in their business 50% off my identity and/or web design packages. Spots are limited to 8 people (confirmed with a retainer). Feel free to email me for all the details at jessica@jessicaleemedia.com